Of course, Valentine's Day celebrates romantic love--that great inspiration for artists and the chief motivator of humankind. Of course there's the biological drive and that's why there's still people around, but the love we celebrate is transcendent of that for the spiritual beings we are. It's still there and craved even if the physical capacity is lost. We want to be loved. We want to love. We want to feel the worth conferred by being worthy of someone else's highest esteem. And when we receive it, we return it with the best of our capabilities and the all of our being. This is love and it makes life worth living.
Love is an action as much as a state. If expressed in sincerity, it will always be returned. Searching for love, or waiting for it in faith, will draw our soulmate. Cupid's arrow can pierce the hardest hearts and thaw the iciest demeanors. Sometimes it seems the cherub shoots with wild abandon, bringing the most disparate of souls together, while at times he appears to choose his targets with deliberation. Either way, the magnetism of love will bring together those twin spirits that only find their completeness in the other, and have likely danced together in different roles through the ages, life after life, in a circle of love amongst a family of souls.
In my case, it seems Mr. Cupid's arrow was deliberate. At least, I think Donna's spirit guides and mine had been talking and deemed the time right to bring us together--on the job and nearly midway through life, though we grew up less than ten miles apart. The chemistry between us burned hot upon first sight, though it simmered some two years as circumstances and insecurities kept us at arm's length. But when the time was right, the pot boiled to overflowing and would not be denied. We came together, casting away baggage and naysayers, finding a perfect fit in each other, never to part.
We honeymooned in New Orleans and that city never seemed so perfect. Its energy, old world mystery, and romance, even its boisterous side, was just right for us and lent resonance to our bond. We strolled the French Quarter, sampled coffee and beignets, shopped the Riverwalk, had our palms read, delighted in the street artists, and had our picture taken in Jackson Square. This is a place we've often returned to and that has become our place. It would not be the same place without Donna and her love.
Love tends to multiply, and ours did with the birth of our twin sons. They joined the family Donna and I had together with her first son, enlarging it with heartstring connections that will stretch into the future. So I'm blessed with the love of my mate and of our family that sustains me through the trials of life.
When I tell my stories, they're often set in dark backgrounds with characters in desparate, even tragic, situations. Usually, I'm trying to express a theme or condition of life that I feel is important, or something that has hurt me and others and that I think should be dealt with. My characters have a hard time because life is tough; often mortally tough. Their motivation to keep going comes from love (see Fire Dance) and the goal they're ultimately striving for, is love.
My most popular story to date is The Spark. That may be because it's all about love. The couple at the center of the story, Gina and Everitt, are soulmates fighting through a harsh world only wanting to stay together. Nicholas is fighting to keep Christmas alive out of his love for humanity. The destitue people in the Arbodin homeless camp have found love in a community that is the only family many of them have. Love as a spiritual transcendance permeates the whole of the little tale, and is expressed in Biblical images. It's a literary world I've come to love and I believe I'll return to it.
So happy Valentine's Day to you and yours. Make it a point to share your love on that day, whether with your soulmate, family, or your extended family of friends. If you're alone, go somewhere public and offer an expression of loving friendliness to a stranger. Doing so will increase humanity's total store of love in a time when it's desperately needed. So please try. In whatever way you can, reach out in love.
You'll find that love will reach back.